There has been a lot of buzz recently about women and the name change struggle. Article after article has examined society’s impression of taking a spouse’s name. I thought it would be timely to share this wingspouse’s story. Meet Mr. S. Mr. S wrote: (more…)
Topic: ‘Raising Children’
Organizational Behavior Mimics Leadership (C)
August 19th, 2010 by Kathi the wingspouse
This is the third installment in a series: Alphabets for Wingspouses based on Dan Rockwell’s original blog post The letter “C” for leaders-Constraint. Dan starts with a statement that equally applies to a wingspouse…”You constrain your organization.”
According to WordIQ.com, an organization is a social arrangement which pursues collective goals, controls its own performance, and has a boundary separating it from its environment. As wingspouses, our social arrangement is marriage and family. Our collective goals are defined within our families. Our performance is the very best. Our boundaries include putting family first. (more…)
Attitude Positive Effect on Home and Career (A)
August 12th, 2010 by Kathi the wingspouse
Dan Rockwell is a great blogger for leadership tips and he recently started a series of posts he refers to as the ABCs of leadership. His posts were insightful and as I read them I realized similar advice would apply to us — the wingspouses. We are in a non-traditional leadership role, but a leadership role none the less. I decided it would be fun to provide links to each of his posts, and then apply his advice to the wingspouse role. (more…)
Dying to Make Your Marriage Work
July 27th, 2010 by Kathi the wingspouse
When Mark and I were talking about marriage, Mark explained that he was investing a lot into his career and I needed to understand up-front that it took first priority. I was young and proud, and quickly agreed with no idea what I was getting into. I, in turn, warned him that he better be able to handle me or I would walk all over him. He laughed and naively sealed the deal, not realizing what a ride he would have! We laugh about this “contract” now because we both know how wrong it was to put those things above our marriage. I did survive medical school, residency, private practice, and a series of masters programs, but only because I was too stubborn to break a promise. Mark learned to say, “you’re right, dear” and selectively pick his battles. Thank goodness we both recognized the hole we were digging for ourselves before it was too late. (more…)
Coca Cola and Culture Prove Newer isn’t Always Better
July 1st, 2010 by Kathi the wingspouse
What can Americans learn from can of Coke? Sometimes we can make so many improvements that we eliminate the good qualities, too. Perhaps that is why blogs are popping up in support of old fashioned values, and why stars are leaving show biz to raise families. Maybe they are no longer drinking the kool-aid and instead are learning from the history of Coke. (more…)
