I am a member of a group of doctors’ wives. I first found these wonderful gals through a blog where I guest posted as a “seasoned” doctor’s wife (ouch!). The group later formed a private Facebook page where we now discuss personal struggles we don’t want to make public. The support is amazing. Inevitably, a new resident’s wife desperately reaches out for confirmation that her exhausting days and nights will not go on forever, and the pack of peers respond with amazing comfort. There are no solutions. There is no magic cut-off date to busting a hump. There is only the support of all of us who have learned to alter our attitudes, be creative, and use every resource available to us. (more…)
Topic: ‘Health and Stress’
This is Your Brain. This is Your Brain in Love.
February 14th, 2011 by Kathi the wingspouse
It is official. Researchers at Stony Brook University have proven that love can last forever and that love really is like a drug. In a recent study, scientists examined the MRIs of the brains of several people who claimed to be in love. (more…)
Pick Up Your Partner, Get Down to Business
January 10th, 2011 by Kathi the wingspouse
Sometimes the work environment of an executive can seem more like a battlefield. A crisis takes place; people get irritable; fingers start pointing… and what was important today gets moved to the bottom of the pile tomorrow. It is enough to make even the most skilled professional switch to survival mode. How a person processes high-stress moments like these can determine if anxiety or depression is in their future, say reserachers at Michigan State University. Therefore, helping your partner interpret these events more optimistically may actually help him/her work smarter and live healthier. (more…)
Emotional and Financial Support Equal
September 17th, 2010 by Kathi the wingspouse
Can we really put a price on a good partner? According to mom.salary.com, I should be worth around $118K. I’m pretty sure my husband thinks I’m worth more than that. I do so many things that aren’t in my job description… but that’s probably true for most people. (more…)
Dying to Make Your Marriage Work
July 27th, 2010 by Kathi the wingspouse
When Mark and I were talking about marriage, Mark explained that he was investing a lot into his career and I needed to understand up-front that it took first priority. I was young and proud, and quickly agreed with no idea what I was getting into. I, in turn, warned him that he better be able to handle me or I would walk all over him. He laughed and naively sealed the deal, not realizing what a ride he would have! We laugh about this “contract” now because we both know how wrong it was to put those things above our marriage. I did survive medical school, residency, private practice, and a series of masters programs, but only because I was too stubborn to break a promise. Mark learned to say, “you’re right, dear” and selectively pick his battles. Thank goodness we both recognized the hole we were digging for ourselves before it was too late. (more…)
