I had a great week. I met with a young woman who wanted some advice on writing a book and we had a great conversation. As we chatted about this and that, I revealed that I had three “almost grown” boys before I published my first book. She responded with surprise and then proceeded to point out how young I looked. In that moment, my disgust for having recently gained several pounds turned into a new-found determination to stay in shape. The next day, I went to the gym and ran like I had been running for months. While I was stepping to the songs on my ipod, I began to reflect on why I had earlier felt too defeated to face the gym. In my moment of clarity (proving Brain Rules works), I understood that my new acquaintance had reshaped what I expected of myself. I then realized this same concept was clearly at play in my youngest child, Noah. Allow me explain. (more…)
Topic: ‘Human Resource Topics’
Merry Christmas, Steve
I wanted to do something REALLY special for my brother-in-law. Like his brother, he is good at what he does and very willing to share it with everyone else. There is just one problem… he is so busy doing things for others that he doesn’t afford himself the time to do things for himself. This year, my Christmas present to Steve is the gift of a blog… something that is HIS, a place where he can express himself without someone else’s invitation or approval. A site where people can go to get more of him and his wisdom.
If you’re interested in new thought as it pertains to human resources, check out Steve Browne and his new blog. I’m sure you will enjoy it. I guess my gift is the gift that keeos on giving.
Seasoned Wingspouses Are the Spice of Life
How do you know when you’ve “arrived” as a wingspouse? Is there really a pinnacle to aspire to? There certainly is, and it begins with understanding the impact you can make and taking it seriously. You have the power to make people feel comfortable, or make them dread an encounter with you. You can motivate others to help each other, or you can turn them into enemies. You set the mood for those around you.
It all begins when you shake the hand of another spouse like yourself. What you offer after that point determines if you build a culture of mutual support or of shallow pleasantry. It amazes me that some spouses preach that true friendships at this level should be avoided. They suggest that arm’s length is a good rule of thumb. These people are mistaking pretentiousness for professionalism.
Don’t build a wall between you and other spouses. Instead, offer them support and encourage them to offer support to each other. Promote a sense of pride in what you and your partners are accomplishing, and defuse negativity with optimism. If you set an example of how to build close friendships while respecting boundaries of confidentiality, you will create the framework for lasting friendships that can flourish. You will also improve longevity for the company, and help build an executive team that feels more like family.
5 Questions to Ask the Spouse of an Interviewing Executive
When fillng a management position, it is critical to select someone who meets expectations both in performance and longevity. A company can learn much during an interview, but talking with the spouse may be beneficial too. Job performance can be positively or negatively affected by the actions and attitude of the spouse. Asking the spouse a few questions might reveal some important issues. (more…)
The Trailing Spouse Handicap
“Welcome to the area. Most of us have lived here all of our lives, so we’ll be expecting you to know how we do things. We also tend to give directions by what used to exist, so don’t forget to consult the library archives. Unlike some big cities, we don’t offer much in childcare but there is a wonderful facility about 4 hours away… Is something wrong? You look a little unnerved. Don’t worry. If you aren’t doing something correctly, there are plenty of people here who will correct you.”
Would you sign up for a move like this? If you’re married to someone who has to look nationally and perhaps even internationally for job opportunities, then you probably already have. (more…)
